Vanity, Substance Misuse, and Reckless Behaviours
Pathological narcissism is an addiction to Narcissistic Supply, the narcissist’s medicine of selection. It is, consequently, not shocking that other addicting and also reckless practices– workaholism, alcohol addiction, medication misuse, pathological gaming, required shopping, or negligent driving– piggyback on this primary dependence.
The narcissist– like other kinds of addicts– acquires satisfaction from these exploits. However they additionally sustain as well as enhance his special dreams as “special”, “remarkable”, “entitled”, and also “picked”. They put him over the legislations and also stress of the ordinary and also far from the humiliating and serious demands of reality. They render him the centre of interest– however additionally position him in “superb isolation” from the madding and also inferior crowd.
Such obligatory and also wild pursuits give a psychological exoskeleton. They are an alternative to ordinary presence. They manage the narcissist with a schedule, with timetables, goals, and faux success. The narcissist– the adrenaline addict– really feels that he remains in control, sharp, ecstatic, and also important. He does not regard his condition as dependence. The narcissist strongly thinks that he is in charge of his addiction, that he can quit at will as well as on brief notice.
The narcissist denies his desires for anxiety of “losing face” and also subverting the remarkable, excellent, spotless, as well as omnipotent picture he predicts. When captured red handed, the narcissist underestimates, rationalizes, or intellectualises his addictive and also careless behaviors– converting them into an integral component of his magnificent and also fantastic False Self.
Hence, a substance abuse narcissist might declare to be carrying out initial hand study for the benefit of humankind– or that his drug abuse results in improved imagination as well as productivity. The dependence of some narcissists ends up being a way of living: hectic company executives, race auto vehicle drivers, or expert bettors enter your mind.
The narcissist’s addicting behaviours take his mind off his fundamental limitations, inevitable failures, unpleasant as well as much-feared denials, and the Grandiosity Gap– the abyss in between the picture he predicts (the False Self) and also the injurious truth. They relieve his anxiety and also fix the stress between his unrealistic assumptions and pumped up self-image– and his incommensurate accomplishments, position, condition, recognition, riches, body, as well as knowledge.
Therefore, there is no point in treating the dependancy as well as carelessness of the narcissist without first dealing with the underlying character condition. The narcissist’s addictions serve deeply ingrained emotional requirements. They intermesh seamlessly with the pathological structure of his disorganised personality, with his character mistakes, as well as primitive defense mechanism.
Strategies such as “12 actions” might verify more efficacious in treating the narcissist’s grandiosity, strength, sense of entitlement, exploitativeness, as well as lack of compassion. This is because– in contrast to typical treatment methods– the focus gets on dealing with the narcissist’s emotional make-up, instead than on behavior alteration.
The narcissist’s frustrating need to really feel supreme as well as premium can be co-opted in the restorative process. Conquering an addicting practices can be– truthfully– offered by the therapist as a rare and impressive task, worthy of the narcissist’s distinct guts.
Narcissists fall for these transparent pitches surprisingly commonly. Need to the narcissist relapse– a virtually specific incident– he will feel ashamed to admit his fallibility, need for psychological food, as well as erectile dysfunction.
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